5 Ways To Include Family In Your Elopement

Posted on: 11 January 2023

When most people think about elopements, they picture a quick run to the courthouse or sneaking away in the dead of night to get married in Vegas. But modern elopements aren't the quickie nuptials of old. Many couples, in fact, involve their families. How can you do this? Here are five ways to fit your closest loved ones into any getaway ceremony.

1. Plan a Family-First Look

The 'first look' moment is a special and very personal part of many weddings. Just because you're eloping doesn't mean you can't enjoy this beautiful moment with your loved ones. Stop by to do a first look with someone who can't come to the elopement itself, or have a first look with those who will make the trek. 

2. Scale Back Your Favorite Traditions

What parts of a wedding and reception are the most important to you? Whether it's the toast, first dance, walking up the aisle, or a sparkler getaway, you can still have it. Scale back that moment so that it can be included. Bring everyone a cupcake to enjoy a mini cutting of the cake, for instance. It'll be fun and memorable. 

3. Consider Two Steps

Many elopements are now done at nontraditional venues that may not accommodate many people or be accessible. If you want to use one, consider splitting your elopement into two parts. Hold a private ceremony in your special location, then move to a more accommodating one to enjoy a small celebration with family.

4. Have a Private and Public Event

Some couples want to elope, but their families and friends have other plans. If you just can't get your loved ones to let go of the idea of a full wedding, plan something private for yourself and your fiancé first. Exchange vows alone with your officiant and witnesses wherever you want — and remember that you don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to. 

5. Include Them Virtually

Modern technology means that your loved ones don't actually have to be with you in person to be part of your wedding. Have loved ones write a letter or note that you and your fiancé will read together. Or share a video call with one or more to celebrate together virtually. In fact, calling a loved one from your wedding location can be an amazing surprise. 

Where to Start

Clearly, modern elopements maintain the all-important sense of intimacy while allowing couples the freedom to include whomever they really want. How will you include your loved ones in yours? Start by learning more about elopement options in your area today.